Hard Conversations
Communication Skills Therapy
Most conflict is not caused by disagreement. It is caused by two people trying to be heard at the same time, in a pattern they have both run a hundred times.
Where Conversations Break Down
If several of these sound familiar, you are in exactly the right place. None of them need to be severe to be worth bringing to a session.
- Avoiding a topic for months, then raising it badly
- Shutting down mid-conversation
- Hearing criticism where none was intended
- Winning arguments and losing closeness
- Never quite getting to the actual point
How We Work on This Together
Knowing Your Pattern
Pursue, withdraw, placate, escalate. Most of us have a default. Naming yours changes what happens next.
Practicing the Real Thing
We rehearse actual conversations you need to have, with actual language, until the words are available under pressure.
Repair
Conversations will still go badly sometimes. Knowing how to come back matters more than getting it right the first time.
Approaches I Draw From
- Assertiveness and communication skills
- Emotion-Focused Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Solution-Focused Therapy
Sessions are held online over a confidential, HIPAA-compliant platform and are available to residents anywhere in North Carolina.
Questions People Ask
- Can I do this without my partner?
- Yes. Individual communication work is effective and often changes the dynamic on its own.
- Is this individual therapy?
- Yes. I work individually with adults who want to communicate more clearly in important relationships.
- How do we start?
- Every new client starts with a no-cost consultation. We talk through what brought you here, answer your questions about how online therapy works, and make sure the fit feels right before you book a first session.